Your 2011 Year End Guide

Why is is that people don’t achieve their goals? What keeps them stuck?

We’re getting dangerously close to the end of 2011. If you made any New Years resolutions this year (and if you read this blog, I’d wager there’s a pretty good chance you did), how are those coming along? If you’re like a lot of people out there, you might find that those hopeful thoughts in January are starting to get replaced by excuses or maybe even a sense of defeat or futility.But why is is that people don’t achieve their goals? What keeps them stuck, unable to lose that weight, make more money, find the love they really want, or do the countless other things to make themselves happy?

Here are the 4 things that keep most people from reaching their goals.

Do you have clarity about what you want?

Maybe you know that you want more friends, you want to make more money, or you want to start a business. You probably have at least a vague idea about what you want, but have you ever sat down and painstakingly thought about exactly what you want down to the last detail?

One exercise I like to do is to take several hours (yes, several hours–not just a few minutes!) and actually write down exactly what I want my daily life to be like. To help you as you do this, consider answering questions like:

  • What do you do?
  • Who do you do it with?
  • What do you talk about?
  • What do you eat for breakfast?
  • When do you wake up?
  • What do you dream about?
  • What are you most proud of?

When you can put yourself in the ‘future you’ shoes and start to imagine life from that point of view, you’ll have a real and concrete idea about what you’re working toward. Your goals will be clear and you’ll know exactly what you want.

Do you have the right plan?

Maybe you know what you want extremely well. However if you don’t have the right plan, you’ll likely never be able to achieve it.

Taking action is great, but if you’re just taking any old action, you won’t be making consistent and steady progress toward your goal. Somethings might take you a step closer to what you want, while the next things moves you away from it.

A common example of this is when someone tries to learn how to start an online business. Many beginners (like myself, not too long ago) end up getting seduced by the latest ‘shiny new thing’ and keep jumping from one program or course to the next, never really making any progress.

The solution to this is to study someone who is successful at what you want to achieve and follow the same plan that they used to get there. Success leaves clues, so follow those and use them as your plan to guide the way.

Are you in the right environment? 

Are you around negative people most of the time? Is your life just too hectic to give you a moment’s peace to get clear thinking? Maybe your workspace is too cluttered to focus on what needs to get done.

I’ll be honest, not everyone is gifted with being in the right situation, especially when they are just getting started reaching their goal.

If you don’t feel like you are in the right environment to support you, you may need to take some actions to fix the situation. Make the effort to create a tidy space to keep your creativity flowing, block off time away from cynical people to do the things you want to do without guilt or judgment, take some personal time to just hear yourself think once in a while, or do whatever it takes to get yourself into a situation that maximizes your chances of success.

Do you have the right mind set?

The last big thing that keeps many people from finding the success they want is a proper mindset. If you’re reaching for something that’s just outside your comfort zone, it’s not uncommon to go up against your limiting beliefs.

Fears that you’re not good enough, doubts that you don’t have what it takes, or even hesitations and second-guesses that what you want is really even possible are common.

Many years ago, I learned that the best way to overcome a limiting belief is to try your hardest to prove it true. Commit to giving it your best shot and move forward anyway despite the fear.

If you have a belief that you are too shy to ask someone out, then prove it! Go and force yourself to ask out ten people. If you think you just can’t lose weight, then prove it! Improve your diet and exercise routine and see if those pounds don’t budge.

This will likely make all of your fears go from a quiet whisper in the back of your mind, to screaming at you at maximum volume, but keep pushing through it. The point isn’t to back down when your limiting beliefs come up, it’s to get in the habit of barreling through that fear and taking action anyway.

Before you know it, you’ll embrace the fear and, although you may still feel afraid, you won’t use that as an excuse to not take action.

Do any of these sound familiar to you? If you’re anything like me, you can probably relate a little bit to each of them. But if you recognize any of these roadblocks, you shouldn’t feel bad.

Accept that they are keeping you from success, and work on overcoming the specific obstacles that are holding you back rather than feeling stuck by vague limitations. Getting clear and identifying exactly what’s in your way is the first step to moving past the roadblocks that keep you from where you want to go.


Table Maners

Everyone love good food, and I even think one of the most important thing in human being life is Food, clean water, good health, education,independence and happiness. We all want to go to great places to eat good food,we work hard to make a living so we also deserve sometime to enjoy it!!!. Definitely going to a great place with ourself or love one is a wonderful thing to do. But going to  wonderful places is not all, wonderful places required class and good behavior, what I mean by that is dressing properly and eating properly the wonderful food you been craving for. I know most of us already know the table etiquette but let’s not assume everyone knows, it took me time myself to fully understand and still I am learning how to use it better, there is always room for improvement, so why not improve our eating habit.


Here is some basic and Important table manners that everyone must know. While you are in at a dinner table, you must know what fork to use when or the proper side to serve on and more…It is very important to brush up our manners, so we could always feel comfortable to dine anytime and anywhere. Once you get on the dinner table the first thing you need to do when you sit down at the table it’s  to put your napkin on your lap, just in case you drop food, it doesn’t end up on your clothes. So now you know your first step to start your dinner !!! make sure “NAPKIN GOES ON YOUR LAP” and please if you are an adult don’t tuck your napkin in the collar of your shirt, if you ever thinking about doing this, well do it when no one is around…..:)

What ever you maybe doing make sure take to your elbows off the table. While you eating your elbows should not be on the table. n: 1 your Elbows take up space and could also knock things over the table.


“CLOSE YOUR MOUTH WHEN IT’S FULL” It always best to  chew with your mouth closed & no talking while your  mouth is full of food. Closing your mouth while chewing will help you  from spitting your food, and also from making noise while you eating.

Please don’t use your ” FINGERS” Unless your eating finger food, your fingers should not touch your food, use your fork  or knife eat and if you trying to pick some conner food on your plat ad can’t pick it up with your fork or knife, then just forget about it:) do not lick your fingers, or wipe them on your clothes. Use the napkin, thats what it’s for.

Also remember t always Sit up straight, Don’t slouch down closer to your plate. You’re dining not hovering over a trough. Sit up straight and bring the food to your mouth, not your mouth to your plate. Leaning slightly in so your eating over your plate is encouraged, but your face should never be next to your plate.

OUUUUUUUUUUF We getting there don’t we? now let’s talk about the different type of wine glasses:)

Name and Type of wine Glasses

Just as different wines have varying flavors, the glass you serve that wine in should be shaped to enhance the best qualities of the wine. Choosing the proper glass for your wine will make your drinking experience more enjoyable. Keep a set of each of these glasses on hand to be prepared to serve any type of wine.

      Red wine Glass.Red wine glasses have a characteristic large, wide bowl, especially compared to other wine glass types. Their larger size lets the drinker put his nose inside the glass to Savor the aroma of the wine before tasting it. Use these glasses for serving red wines.

  • White Wine Glass
  • White wine glass
  • Smaller than red wine glasses, they also feature straighter sides, giving white wine glasses a U-shape. The shape of the glass helps to keep chilled white wines cooler longer, while its sides direct the stream of wine to the sides of the tongue so the drinker can experience the crisp flavors of white wine
  • Serving champagne or other sparkling wine in wide glasses degrades the quality of the drink quickly by causing the bubbles to dissipate. Flutes have narrow sides and a small opening at the top to keep the bubbles in the wine as long as possible by reducing the surface area of wine exposed to the air.
  • These smallest of wine glasses are designed to allow for a smidgen of sweetness after dinner without overwhelming the drinker with a sugary wine. The tiny size of these glasses also makes them an ideal choice for stronger fortified wines,
  •  such as port or sherry.

One Response “LIFESTYLE” →

  1. Andy Kalala

    December 9, 2010

    This is the time for Africans and all those who love Africa. Africaine blog is a wake up call for all this hidden potential…I like what you guys are doing!


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